lisamarie6801
05-08-2008, 12:13 PM
So Monday evening the kids got home from school. Throughout the evening, Shy was complaining of back discomfort/slight pain which is not highly unusual. I gave her some tylenol and a back rub. Later on in the early morning we had a severe storm which is also not uncommon here in Oklahoma. At about 3am I was awoke by thunder and popped up to go check on Shy. For some odd reason since birth since been terrified of loud noises. So I go check on her and the second I open the door she starts moving as if she was not asleep. I think a combination of the thunder and come to find out the pain that was still affecting her woke her up. Having done this 11 years now I was still not too alerted by her discomfort at the time. I'd like to say my mothers instinct had still not been given reason to arise. So I say, come to my bed. I rub her back with some muscle rub and we return to sleep. At about 7am (when the rest of the circus wakes up for school) we wake up. Shy is in more pain and squinches at every movement she's forced to make. It's obvious to me the pain is not getting any better and better safe than sorry. I call into work for the day and me and her pack up and go to the ER seeing as her doctor was not in on that day. I guess I should of already stated the pain was around her left shoulderblade. My main concern at the time is getting her X-rayed and checking in on the rods in her back. So at about 8:15ish we arrive at the ER. I state to them, listen I have 3 other kids to pick up from school today. I HAVE TO LEAVE HERE BY 3PM!! Do what you need to do but we need to leave by this time! That gives them 7 hours!!!!! The nurses reassure me that there is no one in front of us and we'll be out of there in no time! We are put in a room within 15 minutes. Our nurse walks into tell us once again that theres nobody in front of us and the x-ray room is open! AWESOME!!! I utterly despise the ER by the way. Maybe I'm just bitchy but I find it ironic that you can go in there with a true emergency or simply a concern, pay them thousands of dollars and somehow you are at they're mercy as far as time is concerned and wait forever for service while they're sipping they're coffee in they're office. ANYHOW, 3 hours later, yes 3, we are taken in for the x-ray. About an hour later the Dr. comes in to say no apparent problems with the x-rays. Awesome. I said, okay well that was my concern. Is there any chance she can get that pain medicine now you've been promising her for 4 hours?! "Welllll, I'm still trying to contact her PCP (which I had already stated was gone for the day)...to get some background information to get you that perscription. I say okay once more and we wait. It's about 2:15 at this time. At 2:45 I flag down a nurse and say, we're leaving in 15 minutes. If the Dr. has not accomplished this by then, please have him contact me with w/e information he recieves or if he needs anything else from us. She gives me the brb and indeed returns. She tells me that he's not ready to release Shy and is still waiting to hear from her PCP. I'm litterally losing it by this time. Her and I are going back and forth and I'm asking why he's not ready to release her if it's just a possible perscription were waiting on? She talks to him once more and returns and says we'll he's wanting to run more test. WHAT?! Why didnt he tell me this when he was in here last time?! I'm so confused, I look at her and say, tell the doctor to come talk to me now. By this time it's 3pm and I'm fuming. I've called the school stating I'm going to be a few minutes late and he walks in. He informs me he's got all these other concerns, pnemonia (sp), blood clots etc and that that is why he's attempting to contact her PCP, he needs some history. I tell him with a slightly raised voice, "If anyone knows her history it's me, secondly, why didnt you inform me of all this in the past 7 hours vs. waiting till the time we believe we're about to be discharged?!" He says, well I understand you have other children to pick up, gives me the dont you have family members etc bit. Don't you think I would of already attempted that if it were possible?! I'm sorry, all the adults in my family work. Anyhow, he insists that I leave Shyann there and go to pick up my other children. I refuse for several reasons. I myself am a bit leary of anyone now days. Secondly, lately Shyann is experiencing this separation anxiety thing which is odd and very inconvenient at times. But I look at her when he says that and her face instantly turns 3 shades of red as if she's about to tear up, poor thing. I tell him no and that I'll leave with her and return with my other children in about 30 minutes. He says if I leave then he will be forced to issue an "AMA" (Against Medical Advice), I could possibly be charged with neglect and he's 90% positive the insurance will not cover any cost incurred that day. Do I need to say more? I lean down to tell Shyann to give us one second outside of the room, close the door, and go to town. I in some order tell him this with my nose about 2 inches from his..."Look, I'm her mother, I'm going to do what's best for her. I'm not denying her medical care, I am going to tend to my other children. I do not feel there is any need for any further testing however, much like this morning, better safe than sorry, so whether there is genuine concern on your end or your trying to earn a little extra comission for your golf trip in Can Cun at the end of the month, WE WILL BE BACK in 30 minutes, take it or leave it and dont you ever......and so on". He steps back and say's "So I'll see ya in an hour"? We leave, and indeed return in less than an hour. In the following hours an ultrasound is performed on her legs from what I've told because her circulation is so poor that would be the most probably place for a blood clot. The test comes back negative. Blood is then drawn to test for blood clots in the rest of her body. Negative. At 2 AM Tuesday morning we are finally released with another Dr. on staff saying, "Well, theres no obvious problems, here's a prescription for Tylenol w/ Codiene, have a great morning". After typing all this I think my blood pressures up as much as it was when he said this. I'm so irate but at the same time, relieved to be released knowing Shyann is 200% okay. Didnt my motherly instinct tell me that all along though? Was it the Doctors or the test that got me second guessing? I'm not sure, either way, it was a hell of a day and I'd do it all again just to know that Shyann is safe and sound. I just find it rediculous that it all had to happen as it did. Is it because I was in the situation am I'm biast or do I really have reason to be upset with how things went? I'm very aware that this was all a much more difficult situation for Shy even than myself, I try to respect her situation and hopes she respects the one I'm in also as she gets older, the rediculous mother that hate's standing in the corner waiting for everyone else to get it right and fighting the urge to just fix it all herself all the while watching my baby go thru it all!!:scream:
On a side note, Shyann is feeling a bit better. She's still feeling a bit of discomfort in the area but is moving around much more freely and has returned to school. I'm guessing she just strained a muscle or something possibly when she was transferring. :clap2:
On a side note, Shyann is feeling a bit better. She's still feeling a bit of discomfort in the area but is moving around much more freely and has returned to school. I'm guessing she just strained a muscle or something possibly when she was transferring. :clap2: