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marie
11-30-2007, 03:37 AM
Hello! I'm sorry I haven't introduced myself earlier. Our baby's diagnosis of spina bifida was confirmed a couple of weeks ago and since then my husband and I have been doing as much research as possible. This forum was one of the first things we came upon and I very much appreciate all the information and support offered here on this site.

I've been reading "Living with Spina Bifida", as well as "Children with Spina Bifida: A Parents' Guide". The latter is really good because it is very easy to read, has real-life stories, pictures, and impressions of parents and kids, and it has lots of photos; also, it has lots of information on resources. Needless to say, it was very hard for us discovering this defect, but being more informed has helped us to move forward. Along with the research, we've been able to connect with two moms, both with daughters with spina bifida, right in our rural little town, so I'm getting additional support and info talking with them.

Here's what we can tell you about Baby: he's our 4th boy (we hope one of these days we'll get some girls) and he's about 6 and a half months along. From the level II ultrasound, we could see very clearly that his spina bifida is around mid-lumbar and that he has hydrocephalus and club feet. We know that he is not able to move his legs, because they are rather scrawny, but that hasn't kept him from being quite active otherwise. He loves to punch his mommy, grab his legs, and suck his fists, which made me very happy to see. Right now, we are monitoring his hydrocephalus. We hope he can make it full-term, but if there is too much fluid, he'll have too come out sooner to avoid damage to the brain. He was roughly 2 lbs. two weeks ago, and I'm hoping he keeps up the good work keeping up the healthy weight. In any case, we're all focused on being as prepared as possible for Baby's birth and condition and keeping optimistic and healthy.

Our biggest problem, however, is the financial aspect. I am trying to find all resources possible in our case, which unfortunately is without insurance. I've been finally pointed towards SSDI, which people are saying will pay for the baby's medical bills once he arrives. A nurse even mentioned it helping to cover some of the prenatal costs, but we're a little skeptical about that. I would appreciate any information on what help we can get. We are self-employed and do not qualify for other government aid. I'm currently contacting the SS office and will update my progress, as getting concrete information on getting financial help in our case is like pulling teeth.

Our second problem is with the hospitals: we will have to travel 2 hours for the nearest spina bifida clinic. Between our OB, our current hospital (A) where we are getting the ultrasounds, and the hospital (B) with the spina bifida clinic 2 hours away, there is a big communication mess and conflict with who is going to deliver the baby, and thus who is going to keep us in the loop. Fortunately, there is time to sort these things out. I guess I can say the greatest blessing in this case is that we know ahead of time what to expect and we can do the most we can to help out Baby.

Barb
11-30-2007, 03:17 PM
I am so sorry that you are having to deal with the financial stuff while trying to figure everything out as well. What state are you in? That will help me to figure out what resources might be available. Unfortunately, the states all run their medicaid plans differently. When we were in Arizona, C was able to get Medicaid because it was based on HIS income (newborns don't have any ;) ) but when we moved to Nevada we could not qualify because it was based on our income. I think that in order to qualify here a family of four needs to make less than $36,000.

Shriner's Hospitals may be an option for you. I know that they help pay for travel.

C never kicked either and his calves are absoutely 'scrawny' but he walked with afo's until this year.

marie
11-30-2007, 07:25 PM
We are in Kansas. One mom in a similar situation says that medicaid came through for her son based on his income (2 years ago), but when I contacted the medicaid office, the folks there said it was based on the parents' income. I know that SSI should follow through with at least some help once Baby is born, but I have to wait until then to fill out any applications or get a confirmation. It looks like there won't be any help from them before Baby is born. I know we can weather the costs of my prenatal appointments and the costs of the birth, though it will be tight. We are mostly worried at the uncertainty of what help is available after the baby is born. I'm hoping to meet with a social worker when we make a tour of the spina bifida clinic in week to get these matters straight.

In any case, I have looked into the option of Shriners, and fortunately we have a friend who belongs to the organization. I haven't yet gotten a call back from them though for more information on what things they can do. We'll be persistent. Thanks for your input.

Barb
12-04-2007, 02:48 PM
Please let us know how your appointment goes. I have been thinking about you!

lolathechecker
01-25-2008, 08:51 PM
hey we're neighbors! id really like to find some other parents of kids with sb in this region, because i think when our kids get a little older, it might be beneficial to them emotionally to see that they're not alone in having spina bifida. im sure every kids feels different at times and a book i read on spina bifida said that its important for kids with sb to have both friends who have sb and friends who do not. plus, i think you are just a little fatrher along than me, i just hit 28 weeks today, but our kids will be about the same age. what part of kansas are you in and would you be interested in introducing our kids later? im in tulsa oklahoma.
lola